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SELF-ESTEEM AND WHAT IT HAS TO DO WITH MY DESIGNER HANDBAG
SELF-ESTEEM AND WHAT IT HAS TO DO WITH MY DESIGNER HANDBAG

This is the story of my handbag and me. And why I always reach the limits of my self-confidence with it… but: from the top.

Als ich mich im September 2018 selbständig machte war das für mich ein Riesen-Ding. Riesig. Ich war 29 Jahre fest angestellt in EINER Firma, hallo… Das war nicht nur nervenaufreibend und spannend sondern auch ein Grund zu feiern. Und ich beschloss mir etwas zu gönnen was diesem Ereignis gerecht wird. Mein Objekt der Begierde: eine Designer-Handtasche 🙂 Der glückliche Zufall wollte, dass eine gute Freundin exakt diese Handtasche zum Verkauf anbot und das zu einem wirklich unschlagbaren Preis. Es war also beschlossene Sache, die Tasche und ich… wir gehörten von nun an zusammen.

That’s the plan...

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent"
(Eleanor Roosevelt)

Things were to turn out differently. The handbag was brought home, admired and carefully deposited in my hallway coat closet, waiting to be used. And waited. And waited.... I couldn't believe it. Whenever I needed to go, my reach went purposefully...past her, to my "old", cheap and used bags. WHY??????? What was going on? I was talking to friends and to myself. She was such a great desire and coupled with such a great moment (me, strong, brave, incredibly brave even) ...what was wrong? We discussed the colour (it's medium grey, classy, simple). It wasn't. We discussed the size (it was perfect, even my MacBook fit inside). So that wasn't it either. Damn...nice and slow, a rather unpleasant thought started to set in...it wasn't the bag. It was...me! More precisely...my self-confidence.

Many questions arose:
...did I deserve this bag?
... shouldn't I have invested my money in something more meaningful?
... was I now a hanger-on without individuality & claim (because many women have this bag)?
... does it possibly show my customers that I don't really need to earn money with them?

The poor bag. It had to serve for so much. That was too much for it. That wasn't her job after all! Why am I telling you this? Please don't make your self-esteem dependent on things. Or other people. They can neither give you nor take away your self-confidence! What is important is how you feel when you block out everything else. Often, we only become "small" when we compare ourselves with others. Or want to keep up. But that is not the point. Everyone is perfect the way they are! Which doesn't mean that you shouldn't develop. On the contrary. You want more? Then put your foot down! Do more, invest in yourself and your development, read books, attend seminars, get inspired and develop your strategies for implementation! But...don't be irritated by the outside! That is not the yardstick! What has this done to me and my bag now? I don't know...you still wouldn’t call us "bff"s... But I know for sure. The day will come when I wear it with pride and joy. Yes. Me her. And not she me. I'm the one who decides, and I don't let a bag pull me down or lift me up. It is my accessory. Full stop. See, handbag...you will still have to learn that!

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THE THING WITH BEING BRAVE AND WITH ROLE MODELS
SELF-ESTEEM AND WHAT IT HAS TO DO WITH MY DESIGNER HANDBAG
Sandra Khalil

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